May 9, 2012

Birthdays...

I love birthdays...especially mine. ;)  No seriously, I do love birthdays.  When Bryce turned 3 we threw him a really big party and it was so fun!!  I realized how much I enjoy birthdays.  Celebrating someone's arrival here is special...to be cherished.

Today was my 30th.  Crazy.  I remember thinking when I was young my parents were in their 30s and how "old" they were.  I knew deep down they weren't too old since a lot of my friends had parents that looked more like my grandparents.  But to me their 30s were beyond what I could comprehend.

30 snuck up on me.  I honestly didn't realize it was coming until last year and I suddenly only had one year left in my 20s.

My kids have caught my love of birthdays.  Each of them were trying so hard to make this a great day.

As my kids sang me happy birthday with their cheerful faces, I couldn't help but be touched.  My thoughts only lingered on the little toddler missing briefly...but it was a sweet reminder...no tears shed.

A new chapter in my life has begun.  I'm no longer a 20 something...not that I ever really was.  Having a baby a 23 knocked that out of me a little.  But I am actually looking forward to this new part of my life.

Healing has changed me...bettered me.  I see life in a new way...without the pain ridden days that took so much away from me.  I feel my little boy close and it comforts me.

I cherish the moments I spent thinking, pondering, understanding, reevaluating...over and over again.  It was my time.  Time to be in a bubble.  Time to push everything aside to focus on the pain...so that now I can be here with my kids in each moment.  No distractions of dull pain keeping me from fulling enjoying life.  Declan wouldn't want that.

I have felt myself dive into my kids the way I wanted to before...but wasn't able.  I feel the richness of my future with my living children...and even Declan.  I'll take him along my journey...not that way I want, but the way it must be now.

I like new chapters...something fresh not to start over, but to build upon.

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